Always Run Toward Life’s Bullets
Life is an eternal shit show. Get used to it, player.
Every day presents itself with a unique set of problems that you’re responsible for solving in your personal and professional life.
So why do people procrastinate and put off addressing those ever present problems? There is no good answer, only bad sales pitches.
It’s time to start running as fast as you can toward those problems, or as I like to call them, life’s bullets. It’s your only choice.
Shit happens if you are trying to achieve shit. There’s no need to plan, or even hope for things to go smooth. It’s not going happen. If you are trying to achieve anything, you can 100% expect problems to occur.
Problems don’t go away. That letter from the IRS doesn’t magically go away. Those health issues don’t heal on their own. That asshole at the office isn’t going to shut up. You either deal with them now, or those issues will be like the crotch itch I hope you don’t have.
Nothing ever goes smooth. Ever! For you Bible thumpers, there’s always going to be trials and tribulations. In other words, there is no such thing as smooth sailing, so stop trying to find that unicorn boat.
Attack the problems first. Wake up every morning and solve life’s problems from the get-go. Don’t procrastinate and run as fast and as aggressive as you can toward those bullets. Once those problems have been addressed, then go do the easy stuff.
Quit, Contemplate, Act… or be a LOSER! When new problems present themselves you can either quit, contemplate, or take action! If you aren’t taking action and running toward those bullets, then you have a big “L” on your forehead! Don’t hesitate. Solve the damn problem!
Bottom line, shit will always be hitting your fan. If you can visualize a turd being sliced up in a fan… that’s your life. Deal with it! Everybody has bullets flying at them, and you aren’t the only one dealing with shit.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself or justifying why you aren’t attacking life’s problems. Welcome those bullets and always run toward them!
Why? Because the baddest mother factual (BKYH8) on the planet said to!
You Can Shove That Participation Trophy!
The Buckster comes from a generation of young athletes who were deprived of water, and perhaps slapped around a few times all in the name of “motivation”.
I’m not saying that we need to rewind the clocks and throw our kids back to an era of corporal punishment, but can we stop teaching them to be so damn soft?
Many sports leagues no longer keep score, and haphazardly pass out participation trophies so as not to hurt anyone’s feelings. Talk about a worthless trophy!
Recently, a kids national spelling bee decided to end the competition in what was an 8-way tie. WTF?! What are we doing to our kids… and the future of our country?
America is awesome! For those of us who live here, we have an unbelievable opportunity that capitalism provides each and everyone of us: competition!
Every generation across every industry has achieved wealth and success beyond their wildest dreams, but not without losing a few battles along the way.
But that’s okay, player.
Failure breeds success, and learning how to fail is essential in our business and personal life. For us asskickers, we understand that failure is part of the process. It teaches us to get back up and not make the same mistakes.
Learning from failure, and not just participation is what makes us tougher and more resilient. Both kids and adults should know how to lose. As the author J.K. Rowling said at a recent commencement speech, “It is impossible to live without failing at something.”
If you take shots, you are going to miss sometimes. It’s part of the game. It’s part of life.
Not everyone has equal talent, drive, or work ethic.
Not everyone is a winner.
Not everyone is an asskicker!
The bottom line is that we need to get tougher as a society and embrace capitalist competition . Screw the sappy socialist losers out there that don’t have the guts to compete.
If you can’t handle the heat, then get out of the kitchen!
If you disagree with me then shove that participation trophy up your ass!
I’ve got your Censorship right here!
Hong Kong and China are in a political pissing contest which was only further exacerbated by GM Jocksniffer of the Houston Rockets when he tweeted his support for Hong Kong.
This scab that’s been picked off surrounds the topic of censorship. Free speech rules in the United States… or so I thought.
Because of China’s trading status with our country, some companies are tip-toeing around the issue in an effort not to be the victim of China flexing its muscle, and censoring their content and products from its 1 billion potential consumers.
Pride, morals, and the “American Way” are being pushed aside for the almighty dollar. These companies all acting like China’s bitch!
Google, Apple, Disney, the NBA, and countless other companies mute themselves and turn the other way concerning China’s immoral business practices. All for the chance of getting at their consumers.
However, China has more people playing basketball than there are people in the United States! Also, more than 600 million people watch the NBA on TV in China, which is why the NBA freaked out when China recently stopped airing games.
Ad revenue anyone? Any shoe buyers over there Lebron? Are you that shallow, player?
There’s a lesson for all of us in this crisis though.
- How are you being censored in your business or personal life?
- Why are you allowing it to happen?
- Where do you draw the line?
Think about what you might be allowing to happen, and stop that shit now! Censorship comes in all forms. Speech and appearance are probably the top two that you and I have to deal with.
In my opinion, us asskickers should be in a constant “Ready. Aim. Fire.” mode and let the chips falls where they may. Free speech and freedom of expression in your business and personal life is all that matters in the Buckster’s opinion.
Say what you want. Do what you want. Dress how you want.
Let’s learn from these pansy-ass corporations that whore themselves out for a frickin’ buck. The lesson is this… don’t be like them!
Be yourself. Be original. Speak your mind. Live an uncensored life.
Win the DAMN Day!
As most of you know, I live life in 100 day increments. I set crazy-ass goals for both my business and personal life, and then lock in and focus for 100 consecutive days. On day 101, I get a blood test…and go see my doctor a week later for the results. After “doc” tells me the state of my health and what I need to work on or change, I then set new goals and go on another 100 day ass-kicking journey. It’s how the Buckster rolls, and this bizarre lifestyle has been incredibly successful for me.
It’s important to point out that during my 100 day war, my only focus is to win every single day…..to WIN THE DAMN DAY! That’s the key to the whole thing. I’ve got to win 100 of them, but I have to win them one at a time. I go at it like I’m going to die every single day. I know this sounds extreme….because it is…..but it works.
Winning the day applies to every single aspect in your life. Family. Health. Business. Whatever. For example, with my 2 “twenty-something” daughters, winning the day is them not screwing up with as little drama as possible….and just being alive. Winning the day with my health is sticking to a strict diet, exercising, and getting enough sleep.
As we all know, when you try to do anything positive…shit happens. You have to constantly deal with the shit. As Denzel Washington said in one of his movies called The Equalizer, “When you pray for rain…you have to deal with the mud too!” Well said Player! Winning the day means overcoming all of the shit that will be thrown at you. It’s coming. It always does. You just have to run towards life’s bullets and win the day…regardless. No excuses.
Coaches always tell their team to win every play. Only focus on that play. Then focus on the next play…..and keep doing that until the game is over. Winning every play in sports equates into winning every day in the real world.
Life is no game. It’s a bitch. We all know that. It’s an ongoing 24 hour war. So “F” Nike’s ‘Just Do It’ tagline. Do what?!!! It?
Your new mantra is WIN THE DAMN DAY!
FREE is the New “Safe” Word
In the overly emotional world that currently exists, politicians are trying to attract votes by the lure of giving “free shit” to gullible dumb-ass voters. Rational people with a functioning level of IQ know that nothing in life is free, but it looks like the bill payers are soon to be outvoted by what I call the “free shit voters.”
Politicians are continually writing checks with their mouths that they want the real taxpayers to keep on cashing. Below are some of the current “vote carrots for the stupid” that’s being floated by our current list of sociopath candidates.
Universal “FREE” Child Care. What could make a parent happier than knowing the government is overseeing the care of their children? WTF! Anytime the government is “taking care” of something, it’s not going to be worth a crap.
“FREE”College. Diplomas will become the new toilet paper. They might be already. College degrees don’t mean shit in a competitive capitalistic business environment. Only political morons and their idiot followers believe otherwise.
“FREE” Housing. Projects anyone? Jimmy Carter said that housing is a basic human right. Bullshit…peanut boy. No one has a “right” to housing. This is just more of the ongoing drum beat of socialistic nonsense.
“FREE” Basic Income. This could be the dumbest idea of them all. Talk about permanently “hand-cuffing” the lower class to remain in the lower class! You can’t take the incentive out of work. Our country was not built like that, and doesn’t work like that.
“FREE” Health Care. Take competition out of anything, and the quality of that service goes down. That’s a fact. Giving health care away for “free” to the stupid will only create a concierge health care industry for the rich. Where do I sign up?
REPARATIONS (“FREE” $$ for past transgressions). This is a complete race war shit-show of mammoth proportions. You can’t ask people today to pay for the dumb-ass decisions of some moronic southern white guys hundreds of years ago. Reparations is a keg of political dynamite. Don’t believe me….then try it you sappy numb-nut politicians!
Eventually, all of this free voter shit will eventually hit the tax payer fan. Hold on to your wallets. Higher taxes are the only solution for “free shit.” Revolt anyone? You better damn believe it!
FREE is a political joke….until it isn’t. Unfortunately, I think we are getting really close to finding out, and like you….I’m not laughing.
There’s No U-Hauls Behind Hearses
The next time you see a funeral procession on the road,
close your eyes and envision a U-Haul trailer hitched to the back of hearse.
Now that would be a sight to see!
I know what you’re thinking, “That Buckster guy is really a
sick bastard.” Seriously though – while the visual is funny, many of you are
just strolling through life trying to fill up that stupid ass trailer. And a
lot of you fill it up with even more stupid shit than others – Rolexes,
designer bags, luxury cars, all bullshit!
What for? None of the material belongings that you’ve
accumulated over your pathetic life thus far means shit once your dead – you
can’t take it with you, and it does you no good when you’re six feet under!
It’s time to start living every day embracing this death mantra to become the
ass-kicker you know you are.
So, now you are probably asking yourself, “what do other
ass-kickers do when they decide not to rent that U-Haul?” or… “How do you keep
score knowing that the accumulation of shit doesn’t work out too well when you
are laying lifeless in the back of that hearse?
Here’s Bucky’s Top 3 boxes to check before your Learjet hits
1. Screw a legacy, leave a scar. Financial and estate
planning are a good thing, and something you need to do as you eventually
accumulate wealth. That’s a monetary legacy that you almost have to do to keep
the predators away. It’s either the taxman or your family, and most of us will choose
the latter (Your family better not come blaming Uncle Bucky if you decide to
leave them nothing). However, your true goal in life shouldn’t be about a
legacy, it should be about leaving a scar. Leave a mark on your industry.
Change shit. Create. Always continue to take shots.
2. Take business & life risks without hesitation.
We were not put on this planet to retire. We are here to work and kick ass
until our last breath. There’s nothing more pathetic than to see a former
ass-kicker in retirement mode. It’s just a horrible countdown to taking your
last crap on yourself (which is what happens when you die!). There should be no
target date for you to shut it down. Enjoy fruits of your labor, scale back if
you must, but never quit. Your only target date is death, and you don’t know
when that’s going to happen. So, take risks and take chances. Roll the dice
overhand, and with a running start.
3. Tell your family & friends your “No U-Haul” plan. Be very upfront with your spouse, partner, family, and friends about your No U-Haul Life Plan. Let them know that you are going to maximize your life and opportunities until the day you die. Life is more fun that way, and you might find that some people will actually follow in your footsteps. If you know that you are never going to shut your brain off, then you will continually be in ass-kicking mode until your Lamborghini hits the tree.
This can all be done today, player! You just need to stop
giving a rip what other people think, and take risks – No U-Haul needed.
Stop the Gun Slingin’ Nonsense
Before I begin, let me just say that The Buckster doesn’t own a gun. With
that said, I believe the Second Amendment gives all Americans the right to
defend themselves – and it shouldn’t be altered in any way. Everyone should be
required to pass a background check to own a gun, and we shouldn’t be giving
guns to violent criminals or the mentally unstable.
If that’s too nuanced for you people who live at the extremes of every
issue, then don’t let the door hit you in the ass on your way out. For everyone
else, let’s have some real talk…
There are more than 300 million guns in circulation in the United States,
and that number rises every day – especially when dumbasses like Beto “Turdo”
O’Rourke say stupid shit like “Hell yes, we are going to take your AR-15s!”
That’s the very definition of writing a check with your mouth that your ass
has no ability to cash, player.
It’s a clear sign that we are now in the political silly season when people
like Turdo and that idiot Congresswoman Sheila Jackson Lee say dumb shit.
Congresswoman “Jackwagon” Lee said that an AR-15 is “as heavy as 10 boxes you
might be moving” and uses .50 caliber bullets.
Hey Sheila, an AR-15 only weighs 7.5lbs and .50 caliber bullets are used by
the military in heavy machine guns and against armored vehicles. Nice try,
Stupidity serves one purpose only: making you look stupid.
Extensive background checks WILL NOT solve the problem of crazy people
killing innocent citizens, but they should be in place for logic’s sake. If the
process snags one psychopath planning to murder dozens of concert-goers then
it’s worth the effort.
Nod your head, player!
If a criminal, mentally ill psychopath, or suicidal terrorist wants to
obtain a gun with the intent of causing mass casualties, they can do so outside
of the legal system. Even extreme members of Congress like “Turdo” and
“Jackwagon” should be able to agree on that.
So which is more desperate: eating your own turd or promising low IQ voters
that you’re going to confiscate AR-15s? Close call.
No mass gun confiscation plan would ever be attempted, because we’d have a
second Civil War on our hands.
Seriously, could you imagine Beto O’Rourke going door to door in rural
Nebraska demanding that law-abiding citizens hand over their weapons? I sure as
hell can’t without laughing.
The fact that the media follows along in lockstep with these idiots reveals
their true agenda, and shows how out of touch they are with the people they
typically refer to as “real hard-working Americans.”
Politicians need to think before they speak, because the majority of us out
here in America are definitely going to think before we vote.
It’s time to Ruin Your Own Game
Steph Curry is arguably the best shooter the game of basketball has ever
seen. He has been wowing fans since his breakout years at Davidson College, and
during his current stint with the Golden State Warriors. And by the way, he’s just
a normal looking dude, and not some athletic mutant that we have become
accustomed to see playing professional sports.
So how did Steph Curry become one of the most dominant basketball forces at
around 6’2″ tall and 190 pounds?
He ruined the game of basketball.
If you go to any youth, high school, or college basketball games, you will
see players jacking up 3-pointers like they are in a lay-up line. Even 7
footers find themselves too often taking long jump shots instead of working on
their inside game.
Why, you ask? Steph Curry.
He has currently ruined the game of basketball because people want to be
like him, but without the sweat-equity that got him there. Sound familiar?
On the surface, when you watch Steph play on TV, he makes it look so easy.
Just a flick of his wrist and the ball is launched with the perfect arch toward
the rim. He is so good that when he misses, most people are surprised.
In addition, he is also one of the best ball handlers and passers on the
planet. In short (no pun intended), he is a basketball monster.
He has achieved this level of expertise by an unmatched work ethic and a
daily practice routine that is legendary. This unbridled focus to improve is a
decades long journey for Steph. What we are now witnessing are the fruits of
those decades of hard labor and sacrifice.
So tell me about your unmatched work ethic and daily practice routine to get
better and dominate your competitors.
How are you ruining your own game so that people want to be like you, but will fail because they aren’t as focused as you?
Huh? I can’t hear you when you’re mumbling.
If Steph Curry was in your business, do you think he would take those same
daily training principles and apply them to your industry. You’re damn right he
would, and eventually would ruin your game as well.
Hey Player, why don’t you do it instead. The clock is ticking.
I keep thinking about the old Saturday Night
Live skit with comedian Eddie Murphy dressed as the cartoon character Gumby…
when he would yell “I’m Gumby Damnit!” Forget Gumby. But one bad
mother factual we need to focus on is Mahatma Gandhi.
Gandhi was a lawyer, human rights activist,
and overall badass that had some sayings that are timeless for current and
wanna be ass-kickers. Let’s look at few “Gandhi Gems” and how to
Be the change you want to see in the world. Don’t wait on other people to get things done. You get it
done. You be the first. You be the leader. Don’t procrastinate. Don’t care what
other people say or think. You might fail and die trying, but what else do you
have to do?
Live as if you are going to die tomorrow. As rabid basketball coaches will tell you, “leave it all
on the floor.” In other words, don’t take any saved up energy into the
locker room. Work today like your life ends tomorrow. It sounds morbid to most,
but to me it’s motivational. Push yourself. Test yourself. You might just find
out that you have been half-assing it a little too much.
The future depends on what you do today. Now that’s beautiful. Success is incremental, and your future
success and accomplishments will be traced back to what you do today, tomorrow,
the next day, etc. Be that 10-year overnight sensation!
First they ignore you. Then they laugh at you.
Then they fight you. Then you win. Keep your blinders
on all the way to the bank… and all the way to achieving your goals. The
naysayers will always be out in force as you climb your ladder of success, so
ignore the noise as you stay focused on what you are trying to get done.
The next time the negative dingwads in your
life ask why you are working so hard, why are you so focused, why you don’t
care what people think… You can simply answer them with two loud words: GANDHI
Throw no bones to student loans
One of my favorite sayings is, “Don’t write a check with your mouth that your ass can’t cash!” However, when it comes to the current student loan issue…I will need to rephrase that to: “Don’t sign a loan agreement and then ask my ass to pay it back!”
In the current political silly season of how much can a candidate give away to get votes, student loans are are the ultimate voting booth carrot. The voting block of people that owe student loan debt is huge! Which is why sociopathic politicians are writing checks with their mouths that the rest of us will have to cash.
The phrase “wipe away” is commonly used by candidates when referring to eliminating the trillion dollars in student loan debt.
Wipe away? Wipe away where? Who is going to wipe it?
The answer is me and you! Middle-class America. Fly-over America. Scrimp-and-save-with-a-budget America. Prudent-planning America. Not writing checks with our mouths that our ass can’t cash America.
Those of us who took a basic economics class in college (or high school for that matter) understand that debts have to be paid by someone. There is no “wiping away,” and it’s magically gone. Life doesn’t work that way, and neither will this “student loan forgiveness.”
I understand the toll, stress, headache, worry, and weight that outstanding loans can take on a person. I get that paying back the money (that you legally owe!) is a royal pain in the ass. My wife just told me about her brother’s son who still has 15 more years to pay off his student loan. That sucks, but that is what he signed up for. It’s a legal agreement . It’s a contract.
We can all get lost in the valid argument of the high cost of a college education, but that is not the point. The point is that the people that have student loan debts have to legally pay it back. No exceptions. No bailouts. No forgiveness. No “wiping away.”
Reality is a bitch, and life’s ongoing reality checks will continue to be challenging. So what’s next…. forgiving car loans? Forgiving home loans? Forgiving credit card debt? Where does it end?
I’ll tell you where it will end… and the final tipping point for the majority of Americans.
That time will be when you ask the rest of us to pay for it… and be the “wipers.” God help us all if that happens because our friends in Washington, DC will see a revolt and backlash like never before.
Bottom line… it’s your ass, not mine that has to pay back the loan.
Don’t be a pathetic jock sniffer
Watching sports has always been part of American culture, but too many people waste precious time idolizing these physical mutants.
I call these pathetic loser sports-obsessed people “jock sniffers.”
This term also applies to those delusional parents that think “little Johnny” can actually play.
Newsflash: he can’t.
Sports should fall into your overall entertainment category along with movies, music, and other things you’re interested in.
Your life and emotional well-being should never revolve around whether your favorite team won the big game.
Your family, your health, your career – they should all come before sports. No exceptions.
Full disclosure: I put myself through college playing Division 1 basketball. I didn’t pay a penny for my education because I could shoot a stupid ball. Yes, that’s messed up but I took advantage of that absurdity.
Both of my parents were also coaches, so imagine my childhood.
I still watch the Super Bowl, the NCAA football and basketball championship games, and the NBA Finals. But I could give a damn who wins.
Stop giving a shit about the score of the game, and start giving a shit about the score of your own life and career.
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
Don’t drink the Tony Robbins cough syrup
When I was sick as a kid and had one of those horrible hacking coughs, my Mom would make me take cough syrup. As we all know, after about 5 minutes….you were once again coughing your brains out. To this day, I’ve never purchased a bottle of cough syrup because it’s not a long term solution.
The same can be said for the Tony Robbins type of feel good, “Sappy McSapster” messages that litter the motivational speaking landscape. You might feel that fake happy buzz inside the arena, but that shit ends once you get in your car and drive home.
Coming from the North Carolina, these teeth-whitening hucksters seem hauntingly familiar to the evangelical tent revivals that would pop-up across the South. The only thing missing from a Tony Robbins event is him handling rattle snakes. He is passing the tithe bucket with all of the crap videos and books people buy…but never read. Watching his events are like watching those brainwashed cult documentaries where people have their hands raised and are jumping up and down like idiots.
You don’t need sappy. You don’t need fake. You don’t need feel good. You need the truth. You need reality. And you definitely don’t need a fake smiling narcissit telling your to raise your hands and be happy. STFU to that crap!
Find your motivation and inspiration on your own terms. For me, I’m inspired by a mix of musicians, artists, entrepreneurs, entertainers, coaches, and writers. For you, it could be someone or something completely random or different. It doesn’t matter. True motivation and inspiration is personal.
You are your own unique “freakshow.” Embrace your “freak-dom.” Motivate yourself with whatever works. You don’t need some “big-headed-touchy-feely” charlitan’s program to get you where you need to go. You can do it yourself.
Raise your own damn hands if you want to.
There’s nothing quick about getting rich
Everyone is looking for a shortcut to success, and the business of selling that false dream has been alive and well for a very long time.
Bitcoin trading strategies. Amazon retail scams. Nigerian oil scam emails. Ponzi schemes.
If you’re looking for the magic pill or foolproof business formula, someone will tell you that they have it – and then sell it to you.
As they say in Vegas, “If you don’t know who the sucker is at the table, then it’s you!”
Don’t be that rube these sociopaths are looking for. You are smarter than that!
Always remember that if it sounds too good to be true, it is! Every single time. Without exception.
Success is hard, and it’s not guaranteed regardless of your ideas or the effort you put in. It’s a bitch, and it’s never overnight, so stop looking for it.
For people like me and you, the “quick hit” doesn’t exist. The sooner you realize this, the better off you’ll be.
Also, money doesn’t equal success.
If you don’t have good health, then money doesn’t matter.
If you don’t have a loving family and solid friends, then money doesn’t matter.
If you are a drug addict and alcoholic (like I used to be), then money doesn’t matter.
Some of the most miserable people I know are multi-millionaires. In fact, a friend of mine recently told me he felt inadequate and depressed because it seemed that everyone around him was “doing better” and making more money.
I told him that he is one of the richest people I know. He has a beautiful and loving wife. He has three healthy children. He flies jets and helicopters for a living. He lives in a nice house.
My friend is wealthy, but just didn’t know it. He literally hugged me and thanked me for pointing that out.
The purpose of this example is to point out that we are all chasing success and wealth on our own terms. The key takeaway for each of us is to define what that really is in our lives.
When you see these “get rich quick” schemes, you might realize that you are already “rich” with what really matters in life.
No chase needed.
Hey NCAA….It’s time to pay!
The Buckster spent thousands of hours as a kid playing basketball and “shooting the rock.”
Admittedly, I didn’t have much of a choice because the “family business” was basketball. Both of my parents were college basketball coaches, which is a bitch of a way to grow up.
I ended up being good enough to have my college education fully paid for by playing at the Division 1 level. I still hold the single season free-throw percentage record (92%) where I played.
That being said, I’m overly qualified to weigh in on the issue concerning the NCAA paying players — whether it be for their likeness, image, name, or participation. Been there. Done it. Seen it. Know it.
As my friend and Head Coach of the University of North Florida, Matt Driscoll says, “It’s time to share the sugar.”
What he is referring to is one player passing the ball to another player. But when it comes to the NCAA, “sharing the sugar” means paying the players.
And by the way, the NCAA rakes in more than $1 Billion of “sugar” every single year. More than $500 million of that revenue comes from the annual March Madness NCAA Basketball Tournament!
Superstar players like Zion Williamson should also be compensated when their images are used in video games, and jerseys with their names are sold at campus bookstores or online. That’s kind of a no-brainer.
However, the “no name” players should be compensated as well because they also help put butts in seats and ads on TV.
As pro-wrestler Ric Flair says, “To be the man, you’ve got to beat the man.” The MAN in this case is the NCAA.
It’s time for the players to demand fair compensation. It’s time for the NCAA to do the right thing, and pay a small stipend to every single male and female Division 1 scholarship athlete.
That’s not socialism. That’s called fairness and doing what’s right. Businesses typically offer profit sharing plans and performance bonuses, so this is nothing new.
And by the way, NCAA Division 1 sports is big business, so let’s treat it the same way.
The “amateurism” argument is finished. The clock is at 00:00. Game over.
NCAA…it’s time to pay….and this issue is NOT going away.
Overcoming Addiction…”The Buckster’s” Take
Most of us with Type A personalities have a tendency to hit it hard because we do everything BIG. In my case, this applied to drugs and alcohol as well.
On October 14th I will celebrate 14 years of hard-earned sobriety. I fight for it every single day and know that I can never go back to that life.
In fact, I have told my friends that if they ever see The Buckster with a beer in his hand they should just walk away and never talk to me again – because bad shit is on its way.
The problem with those of us who have Type A personalities (aka “Asskickers”) is that we think we can handle it. We think we can be that open-bar, attaboy, time-wasting glad-hander at the bar with our office colleagues.
We think that we have it under control. We think that everyone likes us in that drunk or high state.
You can fake the funk and be a functioning addict, but eventually the game will catch up with you – player!
The final score will be your death, someone else’s death (i.e.: car accident), or you getting sober. Those are the only three choices. No one EVER drinks less or takes less over time.
That’s a fact.
One of the many stupid things I did to hide my addiction was to drink a six-pack of beer on the drive home from work, so that when I grabbed a beer out of the fridge my wife would think it was the first one and not the seventh.
What a dumbass I was.
I’m lucky that she stayed by The Buckster’s side and supported me through my recovery. I’m also lucky to have never killed anyone while I was drinking and driving.
If you are doing those same types of stupid tricks, STOP!
If you are an asskicker like me, you can do ANYTHING you set your mind to. That includes getting sober.
If you can white-knuckle it, do that. If you need to see a counselor, or go to a program, do that. If you need to check yourself into rehab, do that.
Don’t give a shit what others think, and get ready to lose some fake friends along the way.
Remember that it’s about you, your family, your life, and your career.
Those four things are worth fighting for, and worth becoming and staying sober for.
Almost 14 years into my fight with addiction and I can say that becoming sober is my greatest accomplishment.
Are weight-ists the new racists?
Growing up in the rural Carolinas, I was no stranger to racists and bigots – including some members of my own family. Racism is a truly sickening affliction, and a direct reflection of low IQ.
Of course racism still exists in America, though thankfully far less of it than ever before. It’s still something that we as a society need to be aware of and address aggressively.
However, I think the new target of discrimination seems to be people who are overweight.
Ever been so skinny that your basketball coach threatened to take away your scholarship if you didn’t gain weight?
That was me. Thin as a rail.
A decade later, I gained a lot of weight – so big that people would ask me which pro football team I used to play for.
I had become a fatass.
Let me tell you, I experienced that discrimination first-hand when I looked like a retired defensive tackle.
Being a weight-ist is just as wrong as being a racist. Pompous, knee-jerk assumptions based on a single glance are total bullshit.
Every person, regardless of race, or size, or whatever… you get it, player… deserves to be judged on their actions.
Anyone can be a dinghole – black, white, fat, thin, you name it. But I know that if you negatively judged me based on my outward appearance – you would’ve been dead wrong.
So like them or hate them, but make that decision based on who they are as people – not what they are on the outside.
Now let’s go get something to eat!
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
ABC: Always Be Creative
I’m sure you’ve heard that famous phrase from that famous movie where that famous actor says “Coffee is for closers.” He goes on to demoralize a group of lazy, rag-tag sales guys by hammering the phrase “Always be closing.”
That has been the prevalent meaning of “ABC” in the business community for decades. In too many sales environments the “close everyone, all the time, at all costs” mentality is both nauseating and outdated.
Don’t be one of those sociopathic idiots who is always in sales mode.
What “ABC” should stand for is “Always Be Creative.”
Instead of acting like a hammer looking for a nail, use your creative skills to figure out how to set yourself apart from your competition.
One of the best ways to do that is by putting your customers’ best interests at the forefront of everything you do – even if you H8 their ass.
Ask yourself: how would you like to be sold?
Would you prefer the brute force and aggression displayed by Alec Baldwin’s character in Glengarry Glen Ross?
Give it some thought. What would be a creative and new way to attract the type of customer you want to work with? What unique approach is not being used currently in your industry? What can you do that no one else has the guts to try?
The days of the hard close are over.
Leave that to the schmucks littering the used car lots and timeshare cesspools.
If you speak less, listen more – and Always Be Creative – success will happen on your terms.
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
Get your freak on… freak!
Everyone on the planet has something unique about their personality, and that uniqueness is the key to success in life and in your career.
Unfortunately, the planet is also full of Sappy McSapsters who are too often influenced by the media and societal norms to look, talk, and act the same as everyone around them.
Sad, but true.
If you find yourself conforming to this herd mentality – stop immediately!
Embrace who you are! Stop giving a shit what other people think. Quit caring whether people approve of what you do, or how you look.
Be true to yourself for once, and stay that way.
What you will discover is that most people don’t give a crap about you one way or the other – which is okay.
The people in your life that really care about you will accept you as you are – the “true you.” You’ll find out exactly who your legit friends and advocates are.
We are all our own exclusive freak show, and it’s finally time to get your freak on – freak!
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
Quit Your PRIME Bitchin’!
Jeff Bezos is a badass entrepreneur to say the least. But, I can guarantee you that when he was working 16 hours a day in his garage – in debt to his eyeballs, taking business risks that you and I can’t fathom – he never would’ve guessed the bullshit that he’s having to deal with now.
Yesterday, some of his Amazon workers in Shakopee, Minnesota went on strike during “Prime Day” following similar protests in December and March.
Previously these employees – not owners – demanded that the company relax performance quotas during Ramadan and provide a specific place to pray.
I could care less if these employees are Muslims, Baptists, Catholics, Mormons, Jews, or atheists… it’s bullshit. Plain and simple.
For all of you politically correct idiots out there who think that’s “hate speech,” it isn’t. It’s the brutal truth, so get used to it.
But… Even though Amazon gave this small group of Somali-American workers what they wanted, it’s not enough. Now they’re demanding more.
The three biggest demands these workers are making during Amazon’s busiest days of the year are as ridiculous as Amazon’s deals.
They want more temporary jobs turned into full-time positions, as if they get to make business decisions for a multi-billion dollar company. You don’t get to make that call as an employee.
They want their performance quotas permanently reduced because they feel unsafe. If you feel unsafe, go find a safe job elsewhere. No-brainer. Amazon isn’t short on applications for these jobs.
They want the easing of work quotas for the month of Ramadan. Maybe Catholics will want less work during Lent. How about “Holy Roller” month for the Baptists!
Their attempts to create more “secure” jobs by demanding lower quotas and less work is a total crop of crap! In the private sector, there is NO SUCH THING as secure jobs. Get a public sector job, if that’s your dream.
Admittedly, the stench of politics, lawyers, and special interest sociopaths seems to fill the air with this ridiculous attempt at a power grab. Even if Amazon gives in again – which would be a mistake – we all know that they’ll be back demanding more next year. You can take that one to the Bezos bank!
Like the old salami game – one slice at a time.
If Amazon supposedly treats its workers like crap, they will pay the price because the Targets and Walmarts of the world (you know, their competitors) will fill that void.
I guarantee that the vast majority of hard-working Americans couldn’t care less about their “plight” – because they’re all too busy trying to make a living, put food on the table, and support their families.
My advice to Amazon workers: Quit your bitchin’ and get back to work – or find another job!
That’s the way it has always worked, and still works today. It’s called the free market! It’s called capitalism!
It’s called America!
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
The more you tell…the more you smell
We live in a world of constant self-promotion. Kids and adults are literally killing themselves daily from depression linked to social media and our warped pop culture.
“Enough about you, let’s talk about me.” Right?
Let’s all stop this bullshit, and cut people off at the verbal pass when they turn into their own advertising agency. These idiots are NOT your friends.
You know the type. Maybe you ran into them at your 4th of July cookout. Maybe it was a family member – that dinghole cousin who just got into real estate and is “making serious bank” (but is actually about to be foreclosed on).
We all have this horrible, involuntary, instinctual drive to let people know that we are kicking ass. I guess we all seek approval, starting at a very young age.
You don’t need that anymore! Who really gives a shit if people know you’re a bad ass? Who cares if they see you for the real MR’er you are? Let them find out – or not.
If you find yourself randomly promoting yourself in a conversation – STOP!
Envision a liquid turd coming out of your mouth, because that’s what you’re doing player.
Same goes for that blowhard you’re talking to when they turn into a self-promo idiot. Picture brown liquid in the corners of their mouth as they’re blabbering. That “verbal shit” stinks.
Here’s what to do the next time some “walking PR firm” starts spewing all of their shit on you during a conversation: Listen, wait until they take a breath, then say “good listening to you,” and walk away.
Maybe they will get the obvious message, but at least you don’t have to keep listening to it.
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
Everybody’s got shit flying
As flawed human beings, we all think that our situation is worse than everyone else around us. We think our neighbors’ lives are perfect, that they have more money than us, and that their kids are wonderful, problem-free citizens of the world.
I call BULLSHIT!
Everyone has their own story and their own shit flying.
My wife took a call this morning from a friend who is one of those annoying self-promoters. Her friend shared that her family life is total shit and falling apart. On the surface, and from a distance, you’d think her life was perfectly put together.
Life is hard. Relationships are hard. Family is hard. Business is hard.
Nod your head, player! I know you get it.
If you come to life’s party knowing that it’s going to be a bitch for you and everyone around you, then you won’t experience so many emotional peaks and valleys.
Keep your head down and fight for it every single day. Know that other people and your competitors might appear to be sailing through life smoothly, but they’re dealing with life’s shit just like you.
Everyone has different advantages and disadvantages, but life has a way of leveling the playing field when it comes to “shit flying.”
That’s a fact.
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
The answer to “How’s it going?”
I hate – not to be confused with “H8” – mindless chit-chat. It’s even worse when people ask questions they don’t actually want an answer to.
“How’s it going?” “How are you doing?”
Or my favorite: “You’re doing well, right?”
Nothing like answering the question while you’re asking it. This was a favorite of my parents, because they didn’t really want to know the raw details. All they wanted was confirmation of what they wanted to be true. Sad reality, but I bet it sounds familiar.
The next time some sap, friend or family, asks you these types of worthless and shallow questions, VOMIT all over them. Projectile vomit, if you can pull it off!
Instead of giving the usual empty, worthless, dinghole response of “fine” or “good,” give them the brutal truth and launch into the raw realities of your life.
You’ll find out very quickly if that person really gives a shit and wanted the truth, or was just blowing sunshine up your ass.
The good news is that the next time they try to ask you a bullshit question, they’ll think twice – and maybe keep their mouth shut.
Start defining how people interact with you. Stop wasting time with mindless banter from mindless people.
BKYH8 is the walking middle finger of brutal truth, and you should be too. Tell the truth in every situation – no exceptions!
People will respect you more, but even better – you’ll respect yourself.
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
Guard your brain from incoming crap
We are inundated with messages, images, and advertising from the time we wake up until the time we pass out. It’s overwhelming, and something that you should be guarding against.
All of the shit that hits your brain has to be processed, which is probably the reason you feel worn out all the time.
Here’s an idea: STOP!
STOP turning on the TV the minute you wake up, or the minute you walk in the door from work. STOP mindlessly listening to the so-called pundits on talk radio all day. STOP checking your phone all day to surf the internet or check your social media. Just STOP.
Instead, try having your morning coffee with ambient noise or down-tempo music without vocals. The morning news offers you very little in the way of positive vibes anyway. Don’t worry about FOMO. If a nuclear bomb went off, you’ll know.
At work, play some upbeat soundtrack music at a low volume in the background. Music without lyrics is less distracting. Focus on kicking ass, and don’t be a bent neck with your eyes glued to your phone.
Before you go to bed, give yourself 30 minutes to an hour of quiet time to reflect on the day and prepare yourself mentally to kick ass tomorrow.
The less words you hear or visual images you process, the more your brain is freed up to be creative. Try it for ONE DAY, and you’ll never go back.
Monks know what they’re doing. They strip out all of the outside noise so they can focus 100%. Go get your monk freak on, and proactively guard your number one asset – your brain!
That’s why my blogs are short and my podcasts are only 8 minutes. Get your MotiH8tion and InspirH8tion as quickly as possible so you can get back to kicking ass and forgetting the names!
Now stop wasting time and go get it, player!
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
Run life’s marathon like a sprinter
Most things worth having and achieving in both life and business take time and unyielding effort. It’s a daily war. Hand to hand combat. Sometimes it seems like an endless marathon with no finish line in sight.
The typical human response is to pace yourself because the path to success is such a long haul, but that’s total bullshit.
You need to GO FAST and take chances every single day. You need to picture yourself at the starting line of a 26.2 mile marathon, and when the starting gun fires – you spring as hard as you can! Push yourself! You are more resilient than you think.
If you want success, you have to go get it. People, family, and your competition will think you’re crazy. They’ll think your pace is unsustainable. First of all, you are crazy. Most truly successful people are a little crazy. It’s part of the deal. But who gives a shit what any of those people think? It’s not about them. It’s about you, player!
Pacing yourself is for losers, posers, procrastinators, and excuse-makers. Why would you ever hold back? Roll the dice overhand with a running start! What have you got to lose?
So tomorrow morning, when that starting gun goes off – spring! And keep sprinting every morning after!
“Run Forrest, run!”
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
Tip your damn waitress!
Even though I am known the world over as the ultimate misanthrope – the walking middle finger of brutal truth – and a general H8ter of humanity as a whole, I still believe that you need to treat people with respect.
Yes, those things CAN go together.
One group of workers that deserve our misanthropic attention are waitresses, bartenders, and the people who dutifully clean our hotel rooms.
They probably H8 humanity too!
Not everyone is going to be the CEO of a company, a high-level stock trader, or a computer genius – which is a good thing! Remember, it all comes down to passion and getting up every day to kick ass regardless of what you do for a living.
Stop being so stingy with your $$, and reward people for their service. Over-tip when at all possible. Share the wealth. It’s only money!
Write that person an InspirH8tional note along with your monetary “thank you” and tell them that you appreciate what they’re doing, and that passion and energy for their job isn’t going unnoticed or unappreciated.
DO THE RIGHT THING – even if you H8 humanity! That’s the way the game of life should be played… player!
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
Incrementalism is your new mantra
Overnight business success stories. Lottery winners. Crash diets. 6-minute abs. All of these are the bullshit dreams of turnip-truckers.
I call this “unicorns chasing butterflies” – that instinctive hope that there’s a short-cut to success or a personal goal. There isn’t. Too many hucksters and self-proclaimed gurus will tell you there is, and sell you what you want to hear, just to sell a worthless product or plan that will never work.
If you’re one of those Sappy McSapsters that still thinks there’s an easy way to hit it big or make it rich, let me take a crap on that pipe dream right now. There isn’t. Period. Sorry, not sorry.
Success in life, health, business – whatever – is achieved incrementally. As a wise man once said “the only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.”
Incrementalism is the key to anything you are trying to achieve.
I recently lost over 40lbs through a very strict vegan diet and daily exercise problem – over a TWO YEAR time period! I just published my 8th book after THREE YEARS of writing and SIX MONTHS of editing! One of my online businesses seems to have hit the critical mass point with sales after TEN YEARS of hard work every single day.
Listen, player, there are ZERO short-cuts for us normal people. The sooner you embrace this reality, the sooner you will be on the long path to achieving your goals.
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
Why You Need a Las Vegas Clock
One of my favorite places in the world is Las Vegas, and I happily embrace this freakshow location as one of my current residences. In addition to the casinos being pumped full of oxygen to keep you wired, my favorite Vegas quirk is the fact that it’s almost impossible to find a clock. I dare you to find one in a casino next time you visit. Time doesn’t exist. It’s all about “the now.” I frickin’ love that!
I’m a huge proponent of ALWAYS showing up on time, calling on time, etc….in business and daily life as part of keeping your word. However, when it comes to creativity….there is no clock or deadline. There is no time.
Stop conforming to societal “norms” when it comes to time. Listen to your own internal clock. Work all night if the creative flow is hitting you. Work in the early morning hours if that is when you find your groove. Sleep all day if that works best for your body’s engine. In other words, tune into the clock that works best for you.
I’m not even sure if you can buy a clock in Vegas. Probably not. Regardless….you need to abide by your own Las Vegas clock when it comes to your creative flow. No extra oxygen needed.
LET H8 MOTIVATE
Bragging is Jinxing
I don’t give a crap if you are superstitious or not, but there’s some “bad ju-ju” out there when you starting tooting your own horn too much. Nod your head because you know it’s true. Call it the revenge of the “Sales Gods” or “FU*Karma”, but bragging on yourself or your recent exploits never ends well.
If your career revolves around sales or selling, we have all bragged about a pending sale that we just knew was a “done deal,” only to see it go up in smoke. We always vow to never jinx a sale again by PB (premature bragging)….but our thirsty ego always seems to override common sense.
Bragging is jinxing. Never forget that. There’s no positive for anyone with pointless self promotion, and that’s a tough reality pill to swallow in our current “enough about you let’s talk about me” world. Selfie? Not!
Do you really need to tell anyone about your accomplishments? Why is it so important to let people know that you are good? Can you just not help yourself with this constant promo-bloviating? Might need some counseling to “unpack” what’s really at the core of this issue, player.
Stop with the personal press releases. Stay in your lane. Focus. Achieve. Repeat.
LET H8 MOTIVATE
Run directly toward life’s bullets
When problems occur, most people initially shy away from addressing or trying to solve those issues. It’s a common reflex to procrastinate or ignore with the false hope that these situations will solve themselves, or simply go away. We all know this is stupid dream that never comes true. Ever!
It’s time to adopt a new “best practice” when it comes to the constant shit hitting the fan. RUN DIRECTLY TOWARD LIFE’S BULLETS. Just like a good cop or military person does during a conflict, go straight at the problem without hesitation.
When a problem arises, set everything aside, meet it head on….and don’t waiver until you solve it. Don’t think about it. Don’t strategize. Don’t “get to it” tomorrow. Get it done right now!
This rule applies to both your business and personal life. Once you start running toward the bullets, you will never run away again.
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
Always look back at your stool
When you take a crap, drop a deuce, grunt…or whatever you call taking a shit….after you wipe and then stand up…..do you look back to analyze the results?
I recently had a family member tell me that they have never looked back at their turd pile! (Yes, I have been asking people that question to prove The Buckford’s theory on this!) That told me a lot about that person. They aren’t dealing with their own shit…literally and figuratively. How can a person not glance back at “their stool” and their life?
If you are trying to get better as a person or in business, you ALWAYS have to look back at the shit in the toilet and the shit in your life/career to make sure you are dealing with both past and future problems. It’s the only way to improve. It’s like watching your own game film to analyze your good and bad tendencies.
Not addressing your shit doesn’t mean the stink won’t go away. All of us have f**ked up, made bad decisions, and “flushed without analyzing.” You can’t do that. You have to address those tough issues in order to not make the same mistakes twice….and become the MF’er you know you are.
For the rest of your life, taking a crap will never be the same. You’re welcome.
LET H8 MOTIVATE
The dual meaning of STFU
To most people, STFU means “Shut The F**k Up.”
Directive. Concise. To the point. Easy to understand. Universally accepted.
I love the acronym STFU so much that it is carved into my forehead on the cover of my new book, I HATE EVERYONE but you….of course! That book should be on every winner’s bookshelf. I digress from my important STFU rant, so let’s pivot back to the topic at hand.
STFU in the world of business (and life for that matter) can also mean “Success Through Follow Up.” Never thought if it that way did you, Player?
Calling on time, showing up for meetings on time, and doing exactly what you say your are going to do when you said you were going to do it is also STFU! Basic success in whatever you do revolves around this. That’s the brutal truth. No education needed. No special skills. Just keep your damn word and proactively communicate if you can’t. Sounds simple, but most posers can’t consistently pull this off for some reason, and then question why they aren’t the ass-kickers that want to be.
If someone utters verbal stupidity towards you, then you know the original meaning and use of STFU…..but never forget the “Success Through Follow Up” directive as well. It will set you apart. STFU my “not friends.”
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
I HATE EVERYONE but you… of course!
Admit it, you hate most people. We all do. The majority of humans you run across are dumber than a box of hair. Net worth doesn’t always translate into IQ. So what do you do? How do you deal with all of these idiots while still continuing to kick ass? Up until now, the answer was like showing paintings to blind people.
A new day is upon us my “not friends.” Buckford “Bucky” Haighte (aka: BKYH8) has spawned a literary life, business, and sales masterpiece called:
I HATE EVERYONE but you….of course!
Game changing… blue water… ass-kicking… brutal truth. If this isn’t the book that you take on your next plane trip, then you are a poser. A fake. A loser.
With chapter titles like “Attracting Flies to Your Stink,” “Embrace Your Pre-Molded Freakshow,” and “You Can’t Polish a Turd, but You Can Roll it in Glitter”…this is the must read MotiH8tional & InspirH8tional book of your lifetime.
Reading this book is like getting hit with a 2×4 in your forehead with every page turned. Brutally factual in your face insights on how to kick life and business ass and not give a shit about the names.
You have nothing to lose but the time you continue to waste anyway. Stop bullshitting around.. for once. Buy the book, and stop being a sap.
Let H8 Motivate.
Stay in your damn lane!
In our crazy world of “noise” that we live in, it’s easy to get distracted. Life is a bitch, and managing and filtering inbound messages seems like a full time job.
You can’t be all things to all people. You can’t be good at everything. Trying to be the “master of the universe” guarantees that you will be mediocre and continually frustrated with your life and path to success.
Doctors who specialize in one discipline make more money than general practitioners. Financial professionals that specialize in one area make more money than financial planners. I could keep going.
Adding something to what you currently do is a mistake. It’s a distraction, even though it might make sense on the surface and you can somehow justify the pivot to something else.
Choose one thing. Focus your efforts there and become an expert. My boy Gladwell said something to the effect that if you spend 10,000 hours on a specific discipline or subject….you will become an expert in that field. Clocks ticking, Player. Time to start counting hours.
Start now….don’t put it off….and stay the damn lane you have chosen.
LET H8 MOTIVATE!
Who the hell is BKYH8?
Buckford “Bucky” Haighte (aka: BKYH8) is the “walking middle finger” of brutal truth and the baddest MF’er on the planet.
BKYH8 is actually… you!
It’s who you want to be. It’s who you should be. It’s who you will be. Raw. Honest. Transparent. In your face. Freak show. Ass-kicker. No pretenses. What you see is what you get. As pro wrestler Ric Flair once said, “You might not like it, but you better learn to love it.” BKYH8 is going to help you get there… and stay there! …and the people around you will have to just fall in line or get the hell out of the way.
In the current world of politically correct sappy bullshit, I’m the MotiH8tional voice needed to cut through all of the pop culture nonsense and put you on a permanent path to business and life success on your own terms.
Let my BK-U InspirH8tions® be your guide. Let my book “I Hate Everyone…but you, of course!” be your roadmap. Let my “8 Minutes of Motivational H8” podcasts be the needed voice in your ear.
It’s time to finally get your ass in gear my “not friend.” It’s time to start kicking ass and not giving a shit about the names. It’s time to embrace the freak that you are and live life how you want to live it. It’s time… and you know it! So let’s get this shit started.
Let H8 Motivate.